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Offering to only one Brahmin that too without any sankalpa mantra - this is known as Aama srardham. And still, if one cannot do any of the above for varied reasons, it was said to perform at least the Thila TharppaNam on that day and offer it to the Vishnu padam to remember the Thithi! This is the least one can afford - if one is so poor, sick and disabled. If one cannot even afford the Thila (seasame), then just only with plain water! If age factor and monetary considerations are not favourable, one has to perform to the minimum possible way, i.e. by Sankalpam with Hiranyam. And Sri Lord Krishna wants at least a TharpaNam by offerring it to the Vishnu Padam (only, sick, aged and poor can do the srardham just only with TharpaNam!). The pitru dosha is supposed to be caused by non-performance of sraardha rites. It. causes childlessness, obstacles and failures in many ways. Actually, the period of day & night and months are quite different in different logam, just like the one in the planets and celestial phenomena. If pithru's happen to be in pithru logam, for them Sukla paksha/Krishna paksha each fifteen days counts as day and night. If they reach the deva gana status, then Dakshinayanam & Uthrayanam period of six months each stands for them as a day and night. Here I will add a little bit more so that my point will be further enlightened. Pithru do not get hungry as we. For the first one year after death we offer masikam-monthly feeding. After annual sraadha once in a year. This mean once in 12 days. For pithru this feeding is sufficient. This is the procedure followed now. If they have reached Devaloka it is ones a day. Please note pithru ned not be in pithru loka or deva loka. There are six worlds above us and seven worlds below us. In this context I hope you recollect the story of sage Sandipani. Sree Krishna offered him Gurudakshina after praying to Lord Varuna and Going to the nether world bringing back his deceased son… Though you have not asked, still I like to clarify a little bit about tharpan in this context. Monthly Tharpanam is not pithru feeding. It is to get their blessings. Many confuse that tharpanam is for feeding pithru. I will discuss further on tharpanams if you have any query on it . As I said earlier in my answer there are certain sooshma instructions. Annual sraadha is one among them. I hope you are contented with this reply. It is desired sraadha be performed on the fixed thithi only. However there are some exceptions told in the scripts, like - (1) If Vadhyar, Bhokta failed to turn, then also you can postpone it to a convenient day. (2) If due to war, mutiny, calamity etc. one can postpone the same to any other convenient day, till the normalcy returns! Or if any death take place amongst one's close relatives (aasoucham) one can postpone srardha to the day when aasoucham is over. One compulsory rule is, you can postpone the thithi sraadham but cannot advance it!” These are the main rulings. I hope you are satisfied with the reply If you are taking meals at 1 PM regularly you will feel hungry and turn to dining table only by that time. Particularly if you are having any health problem timely food is a must. Either earlier or later you may not go. You know it very well. Similar is the case of the pithru. They will not turn up earlier.you go to the dining table and if your wife say just wait another 10 minutes, you may (Have to?) wait. But everyday if you have to wait surely will you not become angry? Refer my answer for postponement of sraadha. On extreme conditions only it is permitted. I hope this answer is convincing you. Once again I emphasize the point - Pithrus appear only on the day of srardham and if failed , then they visit on all subsequent days till it is performed. This is just like your impatience to have the food in my example.